Are you thinking of getting divorced? Here are some key points to help you work out whether you're ready for what comes next.
By Jasnitha Nair | September 21, 2016
When it comes to divorce, severing emotional and domestic ties is not the only thing to consider. Ending a long-term relationship is a life-changing decision often driven by powerful emotions, and it’s rarely simple or straightforward. We don’t always take into account the practicalities regarding children, money and property.
If you’re not sure you’re making the right choice for you, you’re worried about how your decision will affect your children, or you have concerns about your financial future, read on.
#1 HAVE YOU TRIED COUNSELLING
It’s worth seeking professional advice, if only to help you make a decision about whether it’s worth trying to work on your relationship or confirm you belief that it’s really not fixable, says Alexandra Barbas from Relationships Australia. “Counselling can help couples identify what’s wrong, what’s good and what could be good in a relationship. It can also help remind you of the things that drew you to each other in the first place.”
If your partner refuses to try relationship counselling, it’s still a good idea to go alone. At least you’ll feel you’ve tried everything before ending things.
#2 DO YOU NEED A LAWYER
Divorce itself only ends then marriage and orders about children or dividing property are separate proceedings. Helen Campbell from New South Wales Women’s Legal Service says, “For divorce, if the parties are amicable you can do without a lawyer.”
If there’s unresolvable conflict that prevents you from coming to a mutually acceptable agreement about things like property distribution and arrangements for the care of children, it’s wise to get legal advice.
#3 ARE YOU WILLING TO SHARE THE KIDS
You may have to come to a fair arrangement about where the children will live and who will they spend important holidays with but the reality is that the thought of the kids making happy memories that don’t include you can be painful for everyone. It’s worth thinking about how you’ll cope when the time comes.
Even the most amicable separations can come unstuck over decisions about the kids, says co-parenting expert and divorce coach Naomi Douglas. If you both love your children enough to do everything possible to make your separation easier on them, preparing a solid parenting plan in advance can help.
#4 WHAT’S YOUR FINANCIAL PLAN
Even if you and your ex had a financial plan together, it’s important to consult someone else who will act just for you. They can help with independent financial advice about decisions around the divorce that will affect your future on your own, says financial adviser Catherine Robson. Should you need any assistance with money management, try reaching out to AKPK where you can get one-to-one counselling on managing your finances for free.
Read about the latest Hollywood couple to file for divorce here. Say goodbye to Brangelina!
Text from Bauersyndication.com.au
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