Need to bring back some spark into your love life? Find out here!
By The Weekly | August 13, 2016
HAVE POSITIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER
Do you tend to focus on what your partner does wrong, or the things you love, admire or appreciate about him? If it’s the latter, that’s a good thing: What matters is how you think about your partner and what you express to your partner. Putting your attention on the things you appreciate and are grateful for, and expressing that, has a huge effect.
HAVE REGULAR SEX
It’s a no-brainer that couples who are in love are probably having more sex, and the benefits of staying sexual in a long-term relationship are numerous. In fact, a recent study found that the more sex a couple has, the happier they report being and the better their relationship is likely to be – and the reverse is also true.
FEEL GENERALLY HAPPY
If that’s you, chances are you’ll feel happier in your relationship too. Unhappy people, or those who suffer from depression or anxiety, should get help, say experts, who found that if either partner has mental health issues, the relationship can suffer. Getting therapy, taking medication or learning to meditate shouldn’t be just for your benefit, but for your partner’s as well.
SHOW AFFECTION TO ONE ANOTHER
A recent British Heart Foundation study found that only 25 percent of couples over age 45 kiss more than once a week. But showing affection is key for loved-up partners, according to the Stony Brook study. The more you love the person, the more affection you express; and the more affection, the more mutual love there is. So grow your love by holding hands when you go out, stealing a kiss when your partner isn’t looking and hugging each other just to show you care.
THINK ABOUT YOUR PARTNER WHEN YOU’RE APART
In the Stony Brook study, researchers found that the more you love your other half, the more you think about them when you’re apart. What can help: Keeping in touch via Whatsapp or SMS and telling each other about your day – even if it’s something as mundane as what you had for lunch. It’ll make a difference.
THINK ABOUT YOUR PARTNER A LOT
Interestingly, women didn’t care so much about where their mate was all the time, but they did rate more highly than men when it came to having slightly obsessed thoughts about their partner – and it was linked to feelings of intense love,.
DO NEW AND CHALLENGING THINGS TOGETHER
Sitting on the couch watching TV together may be cosy, but new activities are better for your relationship. That doesn’t mean you have to ditch your favourite cafes; sprinkle in some novelty as well, like eating at a new restaurant or trying a new sport. Even if it goes horribly wrong, if both of you are experiencing it together for the first time, it connects you and reminds you of when you first fell in love – because everything was new then.
SPEND TIME TOGETHER
Date nights, talking for 30 minutes a day, going to bed at the same time, and doing other things that help you connect are the glue in your love – and if you don’t spend time together, you can’t put all these strategies in place that make you feel good as a twosome. Then you start drifting apart, which creates resentment – which in turn creates hostility. This can become a toxic cycle.
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