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How I Turned To Art After Being Emotionally Abused By My Ex

Jyi Wu, a domestic violence survivor speaks to us about how art helped to release her pain and fear

By Stephanie | March 26, 2018

Jyi Wu is a domestic violence survivor who turned to art to express her silent pain.  She was being emotionally abused by her then boyfriend for almost two years and did not realise it. She thought it was something that most couples faced in a relationship. Most of the time Jyi Wu thought that she was the one to blame – “I always thought that maybe I did things to push him to be angry or irritated with me. At times I also thought that maybe that’s just his personality, the way he is and that I needed to accept it.”

Jyi Wu didn’t share the fear and sadness she felt with anyone, not even her family. What gave Jyi Wu the realisation that she needed to leave was when her ex-boyfriend’s behaviour started to escalate. “He became more obsessesive and jealous towards me and everything around us. He would read my text messages on my phone, check on my social media accounts, track my whereabouts, threaten to kill himself if I refuse to see him and even harassed my family. And that’s when I confessed to my family and friends about how I felt and sought help,” says Jyi Wu.

Tired of living in fear and not being able to sleep at night, Jyi Wu called TINA – the SMS helpline by the Women’s Aid Organisation (WAO). She spoke to a counsellor who helped her process her feeling, giving her the strength and courage to finally end the relationship. Since then, Jyi Wu found that by using art she was able to process all the hurt and pain she suffered. She now teaches art on a regular basis.

JyiWu’s aims to help other domestic violence victims and survivors through art where she welcomes anyone interested in learning watercolour painting, oil painting or impasto oil painting to join her workshops.

You can register and sign up for her workshops via Whatsapp at 017- 875 3049 or via email at [email protected]


Watercolour Portrait Art Piece

“Most of my pieces are faces of a woman because I feel women are the strongest in the world yet we are treated unfairly and taken lightly,” says Jyi Wu.


Watercolour Portrait with leaf detailing

The small leaves painted on the woman’s face represents the scars that JyiWu has. She wanted to portray that these scars can be beautiful too.


Jyi Wu’s Art Exhibition – ‘Unseen-  Not all wounds are visible’

Jyi Wu with some of her lovely paintings showcased at Commune, Sunway Velocity Mall in January.

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